Saturday, December 8, 2012

High Maintenance

Ayden Jane is doing great.  She is hilarious, active and always up for adventure.  She is, however, high maintenance.

I mean, there are the high maintenance things she can't avoid like having to have certain foods and drinks available no matter where we are.  It seems though that the life of therapy, encouragement... basically center of attention stuff has also overly developed her demanding side.  I mean I get it.  She has how many adults who, in her mind, exist mainly to help her.  Okay, so that's an exaggeration, but you get the idea.

As for she and I?  Well, we spend a lot of time together and since the beginning of time (Ayden Jane time) most of that time revolved around therapy, food, care, getting exercise, working hard practicing skills...  Ayden Jane never really watched TV and I was sort of obsessed with using every spare second to the fullest of it's potential so....  The end result?  A fantastic little kid who is filled to the brim with confidence.  On the down side, a large dose of spoiled rotton.

I have a feeling that it is a pitfall nearly unavoidable with special needs kids.  They just need so much that they get a lot of attention.  Likely, in our case it is a bit worse since the big kids have there own things going on so Momma is playmate a lot.  Then when the big kids who are fabulous with Ayden Jane are around, she totally entertains them!  Yep, she plays the role of youngest quite well.

Good news is that this does not seem to transfer to school.  I have really enjoyed seeing Ayden Jane at school this year and watching her on the playground.  Sure, she needs some extra help sometimes, but so do most preschoolers.  As for problem solving and maneuvering through the jungle of the playground?  She is amazing.  She happily plays with whoever and has a couple of favorites.

Now if I can just figure out how to unspoil her!  It is hard though, because as angry as her stubborn nature makes me sometimes, her sense of humor and joy over the tiniest things melts my heart.

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